On lofty goals and the value of hindsight
"But re-reading my old to-do list, I also see the problem with making such far-reaching resolutions. With thinking we can truly master ourselves, ordering our lives as neatly as a grocery-shopping list. Or believing we can tabulate success. The problem, I think, is not just that our ideas of success are often generic, misguided, and lifted from someone else’s Facebook page. The problem is that if we view our lives through the lens of achievement, we end up fixating on all we should do rather than all that we have. In retrospect, the biggest mistake I made at 24 was ever taking those long weekend mornings with my roommates for granted — ever ignoring how privileged I was, and how free."
Abby Rabinowitz’s piece is a decent read!
"Q: And do you believe in 25 million people living on top of each other?
A: Well no, but if you talk to people superficially, they always say their apartment complexes are so convenient. You take the elevator and you have a shopping mall, a subway station, and a school. But if you get to know them and dig deeper, every single person would like to live on a smaller scale. Maybe in a smaller house in the countryside. That wish is there but if they think about it, they get depressed. The population is very good at compartmentalizing problems. It’s their creativity and resourcefulness that they bring to these conditions. It’s making do, and that’s what I’m interested in."
"contrary to popular belief, dieting does not actually make you a better person"
BuzzFeed unveiled “a two-week detox plan that’s actually realistic” this week, and it made me want to throw a head of broccoli at my computer screen. Not because the menu is unappealing—the pictures and recipes appear delicious, actually. Not because the idea of detoxifying your body via a diet is…
Which brings us to the most pernicious part of the “clean eating” craze: It implies that anyone who doesn’t eat in the way you deem “clean” is eating “dirty.” As fat-acceptance activist Marianne Kirby astutely put it in xoJane last year, “When you tell someone their food is dirty, even by implication, you shit all over their own body autonomy, issues of class and access, cultural food traditions, their own tastes and needs, and issues of health.”
Jemina Kirke has the same plates that both of my grandmas had.
"You’re like the captain of a capsized ship/
But I like watching you live"